Ok here is the thing about marriage that nobody is going to tell you- marriage is never perfect- we just make it perfect! Just like every other new thing we try, initially, we cannot be good at it but trust me guys it gets better. To be honest, I was someone who was freaked out about the concept of marriage. I literally had no idea what I was getting myself into. Leaving aside the initial planning of gown, flowers, and food. I knew it was more than just that and that very thing freaked me out. The words like, “commitment”, “forgiveness”, “trust”, “shared financing”, etc. are all words that can be easier said than done. These fuzzy words need more than just some tips or definition to get used to and to implement them into the marriage.
Books You Must Read Before Marriage
Marriage for the better or for the worse needs to be driven in head first and it can be anything you and your partner is willing to make of it. But still, nothing can go wrong with getting a good inspiration. If you are into reading, I could recommend to you 6 Books you must read before marriage, I say “must” because these books are the closest things that can give you an insight on how things are going to be and how you can handle things better in situations later in life. The books that I have included in this list include everything right from novels to memoirs, they contain everything that’s ‘good” and “not so good about marriage” life until the very end- “ “until death do we part”.
These ‘6 Books you must read before marriage” has everything from tips and tricks to help you on your wedding day to answers to those little post-wedding curiosity our book-loving bride or groom has on most of the things that can come after daying,” I DO”. Thanks to some experts and authors, they have indeed let their pen touch papers to discuss the sacred bond of marriage and let people have an insight on this sensitive topic. Let’s get started…!
6 Books To Read
1. Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed
This book is, first of all, a good read for anyone who loves to read. Reading this book will prepare anyone for marriage, maybe even before you even know that you are going to. The books deal’s with everything from straight forward marriage advice to down-in-the-dirt relationship stuff which not everyone, even your married friends would be able to tell you unless they are that open of course. This book is absolutely cool because it can actually guide you all the way, teach you important stuff that one must know while growing up. It also has some key points that one needs to remember when going from “I” to “we”. The most beautiful thing about this book, on the whole, is that it covers everything from careers, money, love, infidelity, body image, forgiveness, substance abuse, loss,child-raising, depression, and just about anything else you could possibly think of. The author Cheryl Strayed has really spilled her heart as well as knowledge out, with this book- a definite must read!
2. The Story of a Brief Marriage: A Novel by Anuk Arudpragasam
A simple book that has everything that needs to be told between well-written pages that will make anyone fall in love with the book. The author Anuk Arudpragasam has beautiful thoughts and ideas that when you read the book you will find your in the place at the time experiencing yourself the period from the book.
The story takes you to Sri Lankan civil war and the whole book is a brief of things that takes place within a 24-hour period. But in the short brief period through which the story take you-you still learn everything you need on thoughts, successes, questions, mysteries, intimacies, strengths, weaknesses, disappointments, failings and loses which are all also important aspects that make up any marriage. The story revolves around two characters Dinesh and Ganga. The characters live in a temporary campsite were it’s all shelling and shrapnel every day. Gangas father gets his daughter married to Dinesh in hopes of protecting her through all this havoc. The story cover how the marriage encompasses the first day and night of their marriage, how these two different souls- being a complete mystery to one another both physically a well as emotionally. When Dinesh wishes to share physical intimacies with her but find him emotionally unstable to do so when he feels the pressure of marriage were he feels complete responsibility for the safety and happiness of his wife amidst all the havoc. Overall this book deals with a beautiful concept, which will forever paint certain pictures in your heart.
3. The Lover’s Dictionary by David Levithan
The author David Levithan has his own romance story composed through a series of vignettes – sounds interesting right? These vignettes are only a sentence or two in length, the book is structured similar to that of a dictionary. The book has everything one would need in the form of words to understand the language of love. Overall the book is sad, sometimes funny, completely unpredictable, sad and trust me a bit too relatable that you would be blown away yourself. If you are looking for a book that is going to take you on a different journey then this book is a definite must read as well as a completely fresh experience to indulge in.
4. The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu
No matter what happens, one of the most essential quality ones must carry to have a successful married life is forgiveness. Forgiveness can come in so many ways and happen at so many levels, but to start the habit of forgiving one must start the feeling from within. One needs to learn to forgive everything from the sock that left on the bathroom floor to the burning food in the kitchen. Sometimes is essentials for larger betrays, this author of the book, Archbishop Desmond Tutu is a Nobel Peace Prize winner and also a leader of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission. The co-author is no other than his daughter, Reverend Mpho Tutu. Overall this book is a great read, it teaches us to forgive ourselves so that we can learn to forgive others- the booth is a complete path to healing, transformation, as well as strong and deep relationships.
5. The Dive from Clausen’s Pier by Ann Packer
If you have been to a Christian wedding you would have heard the words “In sickness and in health” these words are traditional with an inner meaning. For a newly wedded couple, the line seems to be a bit negative to start life with- right? But if you read Ann Packer novel that revolves around t5he story of two high school sweethearts – Carrie Bell and Mike Mayer will have you thinking about love after all the initial glory and romance, the worlds “In sickness and in health” will have a whole other meaning. The couples through are engaged to be married, Carries is frustrated as well as desperate to end their relationship – but couldn’t find the strength to do that. Mike, on the other hand, is paralyzed while diving into a shallow lake. To everyone shock, Carrie flees to new york to start a new life on her own- but thigs not go well for her soon life and love catches up with her and challenges her. This book is beautiful- it takes you to the boundaries the limitations of the feeling of love and how it is important for people to make sacrifices in love.
6. The Newlyweds by Nell Freudenberger
The amazing book by Nell Freudenberger tells us the story of George Stillman and Amina Mazid a couple who feel for each other online. The two lives world apart- while one lives in New York, the female character lives in Bangladesh. They create a plan to bring Amnia to the United States were they plan to get married a start a life together. What started initially as a lovey-dovey romance soon becomes a clash of the internet age, merging of personal habits, diverse cultures, and very different histories. the couple is challenged to face the reality and the real world. The book is a wonderful read because it so wonderfully takes you through successes and failures, unmet and exceeded expectations, joys, and disappointments, myriad ways people grow apart and come back together. Definite read!
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