Well, let’s start by putting it out there, going through a break up hurts like crazy. It doesn’t matter how long the relationship lasted three weeks or three years, being heartbroken, lost and physically ill is the worst feeling ever. Here is the bad as well as the good news there’s no magic formula to do away with the pain of a bad breakup but that it’s definitely possible to get over it with a little bit of grace and strength.
There have been various studies carried out to understand the emotional troll one goes through while going through a break-up. A 2010 Northwestern study showed that a bad break up cloud one’s sense of self creates kind of an identity crisis and also makes us feel emotionally lost. It doesn’t matter if the relationship was good or bad, it still takes some troll on one’s body and mind. If the relationship was extremely good and has been a part of your life for long then it’s still the same.
Everybody going through a break up has better chances of coping with it if one understands that there is a grieving period, no matter where you are in the process. There will be a sense of emptiness, a sense of abandonment, instability when thinking about future, disappointment- to be exact- a sense of feat from going to me from WE. Through it might sound hard, treating your self with love and care is the best and quickest way to get out of a breakup. Emotional wounds take time to heal, but the process can be dealt with better by taking control of your health and well-being.
10 Ways To Deal With A Break-Up And Move On
- 1 10 Ways To Deal With A Break-Up And Move On
- 1.1 Step1: Block Them Out Of Your Social Media Platforms
- 1.2 Step 2: Be Mentally And Physically Free From Your Ex
- 1.3 Step 3. Don’t Shit Talk Your Ex
- 1.4 Step 4: Use Your Break-Up To Become A Better Person
- 1.5 Step 5: Don’t Be Alone
- 1.6 Step 6: Relax
- 1.7 Step 7: Get Out And About!
- 1.8 Step 8: Keep Your Friends Circle Positive.
- 1.9 Step 9: Rebound
- 1.10 Step 10: Place And Analyze your Emotions
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You could actually make the best out of the break upon phase- like pamper yourself, love yourself, get healthy and grew up as a person bother emotionally as well as physically. To help you with the same, we’ve rounded up seven simple and smart ways you can use this time of your life to make breakup stress actually a stage of improving one personally.
Ok, so chunk- that weeping, mopping, mascara sweeping all over the face image, the classic chick-flick image of women eating ice cream in bed crying -into the drain and pick yourself up because the breakup is the best time to get a complete life renovation.
Step1: Block Them Out Of Your Social Media Platforms
I know, we have all been there – snooping into our ex’s profiles to know what and where they are and how they are coping up with things – hurting yourself and crying if we find out that while we are actually crying your heart out, they are actually enjoying themselves. If you feel that your temptation to see if they’ve been paying attention to your stories is going a bit out of hand, the best thing – trust me- you can do is to just block them. Block him/her or unfollow, this way when you do get social and share your day-to-day activities you and be sure that you are not overhyped on hopes that your ex gets to see how much better off you are and feel jealous and then eventually get back to you. Hence blocking the person can save you from being obsessively stalking your ex on social media.
Step 2: Be Mentally And Physically Free From Your Ex
Anything that reminds you of him goes out your front door. So the best thing you can do is donate or throw away anything that reminds you of your ex. Or if you find that impossible- create a “breakup box” like how expert suggests. A break-up box is one where you can put keepsakes you might want in the future but are too painful to go through at present.
Step 3. Don’t Shit Talk Your Ex
Yeah, I totally agree that it feels great to trash talk your ex with your peeps, and hearing them say that you are too good for him. But this could easily become a pattern, where even your friends might get fed up with you.
Step 4: Use Your Break-Up To Become A Better Person
No am not saying that you are a bad person and that’s why you broke up in the first place. Am saying you can become a better person as in, you can hit the gym, take a girls night out with your friend, go to a salon and pamper yourself. Looking good can really help you feel good. Also if your ex asked you to stay friend, experts recommend not to jump to that immediately. It might sound easy but going from being the person in his/her life to becoming a friend while he/she moves on can be very hard for you as a person to go through, especially if you are not over the relationship. Experts recommend taking time to decide is because as awkward as the breaking-up period can be, it’s hard to tell whether you’ll be able to be friends or not.
Step 5: Don’t Be Alone
I totally get it, when you are mentally not in a good place all you would want is to be in your room alone. While lone time is a good thing, staying alone and getting drunk for too long can cause you serious mental health problems. This could lead to depression or even anxiety. If you feel an impulse to get drunk all alone don’t hesitate to call some you’re and have them join you. The worst you can do to yourself is be alone, sad and drunk. Also, don’t go to a pub alone- break up can make you do crazy things that you would certainly regret later, like say- your anger towards your ex mixed with alcohol can make you crazy and you might end up hooking up with a 50-year-old man with a ponytail and tattoos in a stinky bar bathroom.
Also, do not drunk -text your ex and say something that might cost you your self-respect, this is why we say you need your friends around especially when you decide to get drunk so so there would be someone that might help you to hold yourself from doing things on an impulse.
Step 6: Relax
Use all options that can help you relax. Join gym, yoga or aerobics. The kind of things you do for relaxation would depend on what you like. Some people can recover when they join intense workouts like boxing or karate, while some might like more subtle forms of workout like dance, etc. either way the choice is yours. The goal here is to divert the mind and get the negativity out of your system.
Step 7: Get Out And About!
Ok, once you take some time and cry out that initial pain, it’s time to go to the next stage. Being inside all day along with can tire you out and make you feel dull. Take at least two hours from each day just to leave your home and get on with your social life.
Step 8: Keep Your Friends Circle Positive.
We stress on being positive because- Breakups can make even the strongest people feel like they’re worthless. You need a friend who encourages you and makes you feel better to help your self heal faster. Experts claim that “When your self-esteem is at an all-time low, these are the people who can help empower you while you work on defining your own self-worth.”
Step 9: Rebound
Rebound with a hot girl/ guy can sometimes help but this need not go well for all. If you start dating someone else, take it really slow. Remind yourself that your heart just exploded like that scenes from mission impossible movie. Enjoy rebound causally and don’t take it to heart unless you really hit it off with that person.
Step 10: Place And Analyze your Emotions
It might be tempting to do the things you never wanted to do before. take time to become mindfully aware of your emotions and label them, keep them in check. Organize your life, keep telling your self “I have my shit together”. Cry when you need to, holding your self back and be bad. Keep your phone away at bedtime. If you hold your emotions in for too long you might end up having it all come together when you are at some place, like say office- do you want to embarrass yourself by suddenly crying a river and making your college especially the once you do not so keen off come to you and say that “ you will be ok, “ you will be fine, etc.
Last but not least, if you have hopes of eventually making him/ her come back to you-you need to suck it up. Break up means the relationship has ended. Thought it might be sad but something in the relationship wasn’t right which is why it has to end the way it did. When you really feel like you need to blow out some steam take a paper and write it down” “I really hate you-you dickhead, how could you do this to me..” that sounds good to start off with.
Remember, whatever happened, it is your fault and also this is not the end of the world. I hope you found this article useful, let us know what you think. We would be happy to hear from you guys.