First Date Flirting Tips For Women – Spark The Chemistry With Him!

Not too good at throwing romantic hints? Here are some sure-shot ways for women to hook him on the first date.

Written by Manal Yahya

On Dec 23, 2023 – 9 minutes read

First Date Flirting Tips For Women

Why first date flirting tips for women? Because a teeny tiny spark can make your date go from okayish to a great one. In the initial getting-to-know phase, even the smallest touch or eye contact is more than enough to give you those butterfly tingles in your stomach.

So it’s necessary to have some flirting notes on the plate. Check out these first date flirting tips for women for an amazing date ahead.

How to Spark Chemistry on First Date

Flirting is a way to connect to someone and convey the message nonverbally that you are interested in them. If you flirt in the right way with a few accidental touches along with subtle actions and maneuvering your body language, you can let him know things without saying it out loud. It is exciting and intimate but harmless and casual as well. If you play with your hair and lean in with a smile, you are saying you are interested.

flirty things to say on a first date

If you touch his forearm or nudge him, you are saying you are attracted. Dr. Joshua Klapow(1), a clinical psychologist says, “you shouldn’t have to over-flirt to grab the attention of someone you like. If you flirt in small amounts and in an authentic manner, it is much more effective.” He resembles flirting to the start of a bonfire that needs to be blown a little bit to foster a flame [without putting it out]. 

Flirting can totally shift the gear of your date to score a successive date. Even a tiny spark has the magic ability to cut out awkward silence and keep the conversation flowing. If you are looking for first date flirting tips for women, consider the following points to improve your flirting skills. 

Body Language

One of the first date flirting tips for women is the use of body language.

❣️ Make poised and polished attempts at flirting(2). The flirting maneuver of body language tactics can help you with nonverbal communication of interest and romance.

❣️The way and manner of your first real time greeting will shape the rest of the date. Walk tall with a straight posture to appear confident and glamorous but smile warmly to show your welcoming persona.

how to flirt with him on the first date

❣️ Notice the way you sit. If you sit timidly and too uptight, you will look uncomfortable there. But a good posture adds to physical attractiveness. So try to be fluid with your body to up your flirting game. You can’t even nudge him jokingly if you sit too straight throughout the date. Let loose!

❣️ Don’t make him feel too intimidated or nervous. Try to mimic and mirror his body language to sync with him. Instead of focusing merely on what comes out of your mouth, focus on what your body is saying. 

Obvious And Not So Obvious Touching

❣️ The most obvious, loud, and clear things to do on your first date is touching.

All those lingering touches in the right place at the right time will certainly heat things up. The occasional touch on the forearm, placing the palm on the edge of his shoulder, or any other casual place appropriate for casual touches will draw him to you(3).

Safe places to touch on the first date are the arm, shoulder, and upper back areas. Your gentle and tender touch in the middle of a conversation will surprise him and make his interest in you grow which is even scientifically proven. 

signs of flirting on first date

❣️Keep in mind that rushing into physical intimacy too soon can dim the spark way too soon. Instead of giving him a promise by being too close, show him you are interested in him by being subtle with your touch. The power of touch is that it plays a rather vital role in making physical attraction more appealing. And the exciting part is that you can also be awfully subtle about it.

❣️ You can touch him “accidentally” and play the innocent card without making things obvious.

❣️ Let your legs or feet touch his “accidentally” and be completely oblivious about it. But if you want to take things ahead, brush your legs or feet on him and linger for a greater impact. If he brushes back, he most probably will leave your knee touching his.

Nonverbal Eye Contact

❣️ Ever heard of eye contact flirting? Along with a few stolen glances, maintaining eye contact for a few seconds with breaks is all you do in this. While breaking eye contact after four seconds or so is playful and flirty, you can fix your eyes on his for longer to make things a bit more intense and intimate(4).

first date flirty conversation

❣️ Play coy which will make him work harder to get you to stare back into his eyes.

❣️ When you are not talking, stare into his eyes and look down or away after a few seconds with a lingering smile.

❣️ Play with your hair while you are at it. Because gestures like twisting your hair while stroking your cheeks are typical eye flirt actions. This will make the guy feel like he has won something as eye contact flirting is basically a nonverbal statement of approval.

Playful Attitude 

❣️ Playfulness and mischief are basic flirting strategy. Flip or play with your hair while talking to him, run your fingers through your hair, or tease your curls while smiling at him. Insert a sly but genuine compliment into the dialogue to take him by surprise.

❣️ Be witty with your responses and mischievous too. Guys love a little back-and-forth teasing. Pull his leg out of the blow or tease him to make him laugh.

❣️ Punch him lightly when he jokes around. And you should be willing to take a poke in return too. Not everything he says needs to be taken so seriously. 

30 questions to ask on a first date

❣️ Don’t force yourself to be someone you are not by being bold all the time if you’re a shy person by nature. Boys always loved graceful and coy girls, but there is a difference between being timid and shy.

❣️ It’s completely alright to feel awkward around a guy. In fact, you can use it to your advantage to look cuter. Pretending to be stupid will make you annoying, not cute.

Cheerful Laughter

❣️ Laughter is said to be the way to the heart. Warm smiles and hearty laughs are the definite way to the heart of a man. A woman who is cheerful and smiles seem warm and more approachable which will make the guy feel comfortable soon enough.

❣️ Throw some flirtatious smiles at him to make it more lighthearted and exciting. Scrunch up your nose or curl your lip to appear “cute” while smiling.

❣️ Ask silly questions and act surprised when he answers. That will lighten the mood and you will let yourself loose to have some laughs.

Blushing Tomato Face 

flirty things to say on a first date

❣️ Instead of shrugging your shoulders or trying to change the subject in the face of a compliment, blush away like a normal person.

❣️ Even if any embarrassing thing you did comes up or happens to you on the date, don’t fight back the blood rush to your cheeks and ears. Your flushed face is a way to make the guy feel warm. Hence, learn to blush to win his heart. 

Sensual Perfume 

Guys will remember and appreciate women who smell good.

signs of flirting on first date

❣️ Wear a sweet-smelling yet sensual perfume liberally over your pulse points like your wrists, palms, neck, cleavage, inside the elbow, the bottom of your throat, behind your ears, and the back of your neck(5).

❣️ Consider finding a pheromone perfume (6) to that will spike his hormones. Do not bathe yourself in a perfume that is too rich or sensual because that will clog his throat by the end of the date.

❣️ For an added measure, spray a mist of your perfume into the air and walk under it to lock the perfume in your hair too. This will help you with greater impact every time you lean into him flirtatiously or walk past him. Score!

Clothes For The Occasion

❣️ Select an outfit that will complement your body. First date clothes can seal the deal.

❣️ Dress in clothes that you are comfortable in and that look good on you.

Clothes for first date

❣️ Choose a soft and light shade to bring a feminine look and darker shades for a bold look.

❣️ Accentuate your assets, flaunt your shoulders and curves, and do not hesitate to show some skin while keeping it classy. This will give you a confident and sexy vibe that he won’t fail to notice, and you can make use of it while flirting. 

Heated Excitement 

❣️ Vary your vocal intonation to a soft whisper when you lean into telling a suggestive joke to build excitement. You don’t need to flirt outrageously, instead, your charm with flirty expressions and blushes, and teases will do the job just right.

❣️Send a flirty text message before or after the date (optional).

Playing Hard To Get

The right kind of goodbye won’t leave a guy’s mind. If you liked the guy and had a wonderful time, let him know that subtly.

❣️ Move closer leaving a 12-inch space to heat things(7). 14-20 inches is the personal space range for body language gestures.

First Date Flirting Tips For Women

❣️If you are ready for a second date, a half-body embrace is a good way to give him a hint. You shouldn’t give in just yet. If not, give him a peck on the cheek with your kissable lips to not let the hope die then and there.

❣️ Turn around and smile at him coyly as you walk away from him. Knowing when to drawback is important. Always play hard to get and not be easily available for him to not take you for granted. 

Physical Appearance 

❣️ Make an effort by cleaning up pretty well. Your physical appearance and the way you present yourself will make a difference, even if you think otherwise.

❣️Avoid heavy makeup as you don’t want to come off seductive. Stick to subtle and light nude shades to enhance your innocent face.

❣️ Focus on just one bold aspect, either smokey eyes or red lips, not both. Keep your hairstyle soft and delicate to look naturally sweet and cute. 

Baby Smooth Skin

❣️ Make sure that you keep your skin smooth on your first date.

❣️ Moisturize your skin to make it oh-so-smooth to the touch. Moisturizing your hands will keep them supple and your lingering touches on him will make him want more.

❣️ Shave the hair on your arms and legs or at least the exposed skin to appear smooth. Most guys don’t appreciate hairy skin. But if you are really against that leave them be.

First Date Flirting Tips For Women


All of these might seem too silly for someone who doesn’t get nervous before flirting. But flirting doesn’t come easily for everyone. Some of you might get too nervous that you forget how to act around a guy. Alongside deep insightful questions to know him better, some subtle flirting will tone the nervousness down a notch. These are the basics of the first date flirting tips for women you shouldn’t shrug off and it is important that you know them beforehand. Get a date, flirt, and win his heart! 

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  2. The University of Kansas. (n.d). Research Defines More Behaviors That Reveal Romantic Attraction. [Online] Available at:
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  6. McCoy, Norma L., and Lisa Pitino. "Pheromonal influences on sociosexual behavior in young women." Physiology & Behavior 75.3 (2002): 367-375.
  7. Sonneborn, Liz. Nonverbal communication: the art of body language. The Rosen Publishing Group, Inc, 2011.

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